Some advice to help with solving problems between you and another person.
So, I’m going to ask you to take a moment and try to recall what kind of person you are in extremely uncomfortable moments.
Are you the kind of person who moves towards something to solve it, or away from something?
Meaning that, if there a conflict at hand, do you run away, or are you the kind of person who wants to solve “this right now”. You go towards the problem.
I am a towards the problem. And we do both, but most of the time you are one or the other.
You either go towards pain or away.
I go towards things most of the time, I don’t like having things lingering in my head for days or weeks.
I like to solve it immediately.
If I run into someone who does the opposite, there is a problem because then they extend the issue longer than necessary
You must realize whether your strategy is effective or not.
There are some situations where you must decide quickly and a lot of us fear these problems.
A lot of us are outcome dependent, meaning they won’t work in our way. There are some things that are completely out of our control and we will not know what will happen until you deal will it.
Some of us procrastinate, like people who do not deal with something immediately or rock the boat, and that makes it so you suffer.
Some of us act so quickly, we cause another problem, like overreacting at someone over the original issue and making a bigger problem.
We need to find a balance. And we know that people usually do not like pain, and we try to avoid it.
We must find a middle ground. We all have a primary mode, run, or stay, but at the end of the day we must face it.
Maybe the person I am dealing with doesn’t want to solve the problem too quickly, you might cause them to be even more distant.
So, it depends who you talking to, you might want to give them a couple of days to figure out the problem.
If someone is, distant, you could talk to the other person and explain that you need time to figure out the problems. The middle ground is to acknowledge yourself so you can solve the problem with the other person.
If you have someone who is a different type of person than you, you must find a compromise.
Are you the kind of person who wants to deal with the problem immediately, or do you like to wait?
Both can be bad if your personality is turned towards either one.
Then, figure out what kind of person the other person is by asking. I want to give you guys this advice to apply it to real life to solve problems. Being able to compromise with other people by communicating properly based on your intentions and theirs.