Every human being on this planet has experienced a failing relationship; whether it be a business relationship, a platonic relationship, or a romantic one, we’ve been through it one way or another. Sometimes we tend to blame ourselves and believe whatever happened was solely our fault or that we’re not ‘good enough’ for the other person; other times it was the other person and you had to let them go. Then there are times where both people are great for each other but can’t even form a good relationship because it’s just bad timing.
But what exactly does bad timing? Bad timing simply means that the desires of both people involved are in conflict at the time they’ve crossed paths when trying to build a relationship. One example: If you meet this amazing person but they just got out of a five-year relationship, chances are they will not be prepared to dive into another and reject this amazing opportunity that they could have with you. Even If they knew you were an amazing person, and that you would both be extremely happy together, they may not feel that they can contribute to any positive relationship in the weakened state they’re in. Furthermore, they may actually want to enjoy being free after five years and focus on themselves. The underlying driving factor, whether they realize it or not, is that they need time to heal and readjust before they can move on. If you think any healthy, emotionally-stable individual is going to force things to work out at the wrong time, while totally, then you are in for a rude awakening. So no matter how bad you want it, even if it’s the perfect time in your life to be in a relationship, it’s not for them – so it’s not gonna happen.
The saying, “It takes two to tango,” illustrates the point that nothing can work out unless both people are willing to dance; and if they do end up dancing, both of them are responsible for how the dance goes. When it comes to the idea of love, many of us are told that people are willing to take the risks, sacrifice their dreams, and go against all odds to make it work; as if live always works out like some kind of crappy Hollywood flick. Sure, there are some people who are willing to those things, and then there some who are not, but I think we can all agree that most people like things when they happen to work out at the right time.
So what it all boils down to is this: It takes two people to tango and they have to be willing to dance together in the first place otherwise there is no dance at all. They also have to be able to work together and keep in step; if they’re out of step too much and it ruins the dance. Eventually one or even both of them will realize that it’s time to give up and find a new dance partner. Sometimes you will find a better dancer than you and you will feel like you’re not ready to dance with them because you can’t keep up; sometimes you will find people that can’t keep up with you and you don’t want to dance at a lower skill level; and sometimes it’s just not time to dance.
So if you ever find yourself in this situation and feel down, don’t be. In the case where bad timing was truly the reason why your relationship didn’t work out, then you mustn’t be hard on yourself at all and realize that even if you were the right person for them, you were there at the wrong time, and there’s no fault on either end in this case.