All of our parents have tried to raise us the best way they could while offering us their two cents in the process. They give us the best advice they knew with good intentions, but since they are human and have only experienced life from their own perspective, they didn’t always give us the correct advice nor could they have possibly known how to deal with every situation we faced as children. I am a firm believer that no matter how hard our parents tried to raise us right, it would fuck us up in some way, shape or form. Whether they wanted us to be super happy and spoiled us to death; making us completely unappreciative of everything we have or could have, or they tried to make us tough; to the point they were too hard on us and we grew end up resenting them, there’s was just no way form them to know.
Most parents will just go with what they hear from other parents; the same cliché aphorisms which have been passed down to them by society. There are definitely a few things that our parents drilled in to our heads that probably ended up causing us years of unnecessary emotional toil. They unknowingly spewed society’s propaganda into our innocent, susceptible minds to the point that we bought into it; only to learn the hard way when we realized that mommy and daddy didn’t have a damn clue what they were talking about in certain cases. But hey, we can’t get mad at them; they are only human, and in the end, learning the hard way is sometimes the best way to learn. But as for the terrible advice that I want to address here are three that certainly killed dreams and make us weaker in character:
1.) “Your dreams are silly! Just go to school and get a good job.”
This is by far the worst and most damaging sack of lies possible. I wonder how many children lost faith in themselves and did exactly what mommy and daddy told them do; only to grow up and resent them for the rest of their lives. I’d say probably most of humanity. Little did our parents realize that many people who changed the world are multi-millionaires who had dreams, who had a vision people taught were crazy, and some even dropped out of school to achieve them! The old “go to school” adage is not only ridiculous, but also a dream-killer and doesn’t apply to everyone; especially the natural-born entrepreneur. This fear-based belief teaches children that their innate desires and abilities are no match for the outside world; thus training them to kill their dreams and submit to the status quo like the rest of the flock. This is why there are only a few of us who ever break free from our fears and end up pursuing our dreams.
That is why I am a huge believer in ignoring anyone who says you cannot do something. Don’t let anyone tell you that your dreams are silly and that you need to go to school. Money can be made in a million of different ways. You don’t need some piece paper that will put you 100k in the hole and force you to work like a slave to pay off the student loans for the rest of your life.
The truth is, in America, or any capitalist nation for that matter, the entrepreneurial spirit reigns supreme. Being a business owner is always the most profitable yet riskiest endeavor, and only a person who has complete faith in their abilities can make that happen. That is not to say going to college or university couldn’t help, surely it could, but it’s not actually necessary to be successful. That is why this harmful programming destroys millions of would-be entrepreneurs when it teaches kids that conformity is the best way because it’s the safest. Only those who follow their dreams are the ones who will truly live the life want; while the rest, programmed by their parents, will live the life of a paid slave working to make the dreams of others come true.
2.) “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
This is another load of bullshit that is the reason why our world has fallen deep into a PC matrix. This stupid saying teaches kids to be afraid to speak their minds for the sake of sparing someone of getting their feelings hurt. This also allows others to get away with inappropriate behavior that needs to be corrected with a stern verbal reprimand. In other words, this old adage basically teaches kids to avoid telling the truth in most cases. Well, sometimes the truth hurts and it won’t seem “nice” to the other person but if it’s not spoken then falsehood becomes the norm and everybody loses. What our parents should have said was, “Don’t make fun of or bully people!” and left it at that. This would have taught us not to use our words to purposely hurt others while still allowing us to stand up and speak the truth when it was necessary to do so, irrespective of someone’s feelings.
The effect of this brainwashing is evident today when you see a society of timid, soft-spoken people who won’t even call a spade a spade because someone might not like the truth. Obviously this is a result of their confidence having been stripped away when they were indirectly taught to keep quiet if they had nothing nice to say. These people are afraid to speak their minds and always seek to avoid confrontation so they don’t hurt others’ feelings so that everyone wins in the end; but in reality, everyone loses because the real issues are not being dealt with.
I say, if you want to say something then say it, so long as it is on the side of truth and it’s truly how you feel. If it offends someone else, well that’s their problem, not yours. You have a right to speak your mind at all times and don’t ever let others tell or make you believe otherwise.
3.) “Don’t Question What I Say.”
This is exactly how brainwashed zombies are made: How the hell is a kid going to learn if they don’t question authority? All you have to do is take a look around you and see that you are surrounded by mindless “sheeple” who believe anything that any authority figures tells them to believe without question. This is due to the obvious fact that children are raised to believe that mommy and daddy are always right. Now this does not mean that one shouldn’t respect the proper authorities but not questioning them is a form of total submission. Parents are the first and most influential authority figures we deal with in our lives and as one is conditioned not to question mommy and daddy no matter what, this programming eventually extends to all authority figures in one’s life, leading to the loss of independent thinking.
The truth is one should question everything, even “God.” The human mind is a like a computer that needs to ask questions about the world around it so it can learn. Questioning things is a natural process and it allows one to gain different perspectives on different matters so they can develop their own opinions and belief systems. If one is told not to question something it strips them of their ability to assess a situation freely and they become mental prisoners of a dogma that can bring them or others harm. You should always question everything your life; no matter how politically incorrect or how “sinful” it may be. People who are telling you not to question something usually are hiding something from you – The truth does not fear investigation.
In order to reverse this damage you must break free from anything that you feel is not aligned with who you truly are, regardless of what others think. It’s not easy to undo decades of indirect, fear-based mind control, but it is possible and it will be the ultimate freedom from the shackles of the “original sins”(limiting beliefs) of one’s parents which were passed down to all of us.
By the way, this article isn’t meant to come off as if our parents didn’t know jack shit because if you really go back and review your life, you’ll see that they were right about a lot of things. In fact when I turned 30, I reviewed my life and saw all the shit that I put my parents through as a young man and apologized. Of course all was forgiven; they even took responsibility for their failures because no one is perfect and it takes two to tango, and we all made peace over the past.
For those of you who may still have resentment towards your parents for some reason, keep in mind that they are human; they aren’t perfect now and weren’t perfect then. I am sure they meant well and did what they thought was their best for you, so if you have any resentment towards them now because of your current life’s miseries, I suggest you drop that heavy load off your shoulders so you can move on. Now if you’re parents happen to be abusive evil people, which in some cases, is unfortunately the case, then drop them, and get on with your life without them.
Realize that you are the only person who is responsible for creating your future from this point forward and take control of your life as an adult; focus on the now because the rest is history and what’s next is up to you.